A lackluster libido can take a lot of fun out of life and be damaging to some of our most important relationships. In fact, nearly one in four divorces is to couples over 50. Sex is good for our health, physical and emotional, but desire can be a complicated process in women, particularly as hormone levels dip in menopause. To revive a limp libido, visualization can be a powerful driver. Role play and toys or vibrators are also useful for remembering and returning to pleasure. Finally, if pain with penetration is part of the problem, there are remedies that may help you enjoy sex again.